Do You Struggle With Being Insecure? You’re in Luck! (And Cash Giveaway Winner Announced – Did You Win?)
Do you struggle with insecurity issues?
I’ll be the first to say that I’m super insecure. Probably the most insecure person I know. There’s no point in lying to myself and to others if that’s how I truly feel about myself, right?
If you’re insecure, you may not know it, but you’re blessed
Look around you.
Have you noticed that people who have the biggest insecurities are the ones that are the biggest “try-hards?” Seriously, no joke. As an example, think about people who are into fitness. Have you ever wondered why people who are the most fit are the most insecure and most critical about their bodies?
I see people that are cynically diagnosed as obese by their doctors that are probably the most proud of being overweight. They flaunt and it wear it as a badge of honor whereas the people who are the most fit and ripped are always watching what they’re eating and scrutinizing themselves so that they maintain their physiques.
I’m not body-shaming nor am I glorifying people who legitimately have mental disorders like body dysmorphia. I used to have that myself so I know it first-hand.
Here’s another example: have you ever met people that are like top A students and they take it so hard when they get something like a B when most people are happy that they passed with a C average? Yep, overachievers. You can hate on them all you want, but they get stuff done, don’t they?
Do you have a chip on your shoulders? Great, you actually stand a chance!
Are you starting to get where I’m going with this?
I’ve met people that are mentally and emotionally healthy and stable. There aren’t that many out there, but they’re out there. They’re probably the most laid-back, relaxed, and content people I’ve ever met. They have absolutely nothing to prove! There’s good and bad that go with that. It’s not all bad, but it’s not all good either.
Because isn’t it ironic that these same people who we all feel like are in enviable positions are also commonly the laziest people we’ve ever encountered? This is what I call too comfortable and content. So content that it ironically ends up becoming their Achilles’ heel. It leads to their downfall. It’s sad how the world turns sometimes. And often times they’re the smartest people we’ve ever encountered but they’re just so uninspired.
I grew up envying others that had money, and I stressed out about my parents’ finances
I used to envy kids that used to have more than me. Kids that get everything they want because their parents are financially stable. I used to ask myself all the time: how come they get to enjoy all the luxuries of life and I’m here stressing out about how little my parents make? Why is that my problem? Why am I inheriting my parents’ money issues? I just wanted to be normal like everyone else. It just didn’t seem fair to me. Because I felt like I had no say in it and I was born into this family. It all felt like just really bad luck.
I thought like this growing up. It sucked. I hated being poor. I hated always having to wear donated clothing. We never got new clothes. We never ate out, and we never got presents. It felt so unnatural compared to all the other kids around me and I grew very resentful about being poor. That’s why I think I have some serious hurts and trauma still today from growing up with less than everyone else around me. And whenever I feel like I’m “losing ground” or losing money, I get extremely worried and anxious.
Come to find out, growing up privileged is a massive handicap!
Who would’ve thought though, that the tables turn later!
Someone like me who has some serious traumas and mental problems from always being worried about money, ends up actually making money. And the kids I knew growing up that come from a well to-do household are either barely surviving or being spoon-fed by their parents into their 30’s.
No offense if this is you. If you’re in your 30’s being hand-held by your parents. But seriously, it’s time to take the reigns because let’s be real here. Your parents aren’t going to be around forever. And guess what? That trust fund? It’ll run dry one day.
Don’t say that I didn’t warn you.
And I’m sorry but most people don’t respect people that had things handed to them. It’s like seeing rich kids at school driving the expensive cars but you know that the parents paid for it. Or you always see them going out to eat and going shopping, and yet you know they make no money to afford those things!
And even if you legitimately still manage to “make it” in life through your own efforts and merit, people still won’t give you the respect you deserve. It’s just how society is. People resent those they feel like had everything handed to them in life on a silver platter.
Use your disadvantage in life, as an advantage
Look, you can’t control the circumstances you’ve been born into. I get it. It sucks if you were born into a cycle of poverty. But guess what, ultimately it’s your choice how this story plays out.
There’s a saying by Bill Gates that I really like, and it goes something like this:
“If you were born poor, it’s not your fault. But if you die poor, it’s your fault.” Think about how true that statement is. If you don’t agree, then I’m sorry but your mentality is what’s broken. If that’s the case, then I highly recommend that you read some of the books I recommend in my recommended books section of this blog.
Complaining feels good, but it’s never-ending and it doesn’t produce anything
We all complain sometimes. Heck, I do it too, although I try not to.
Complaining, I think, is one of the most fruitless things a person can do. Because firstly, and most importantly, it doesn’t change a single thing! Have you met people like this? All they do is complain. It’s mentally draining for everyone around them. All they do is complain and they never stop! The negativity really festers and starts infecting you too.
Look, you can keep complaining and remain where you’re at (which is practically guaranteed since you’re not doing anything different), or you can say “man this sucks, but I’m gonna do something about this.” Am I making sense here? Allow for moments of complaining, but once you’re done, get to work. You’re complaining heart and attitude should lead you to a place of productivity; since it sucks being there, you don’t wanna remain there. Make sense?
Conclusion and Take-aways
- We’re all insecure about something. No one’s perfect. We’re all flawed human beings. But often people look at insecurities as only a weakness. Like a lot of things in life, there are pros and cons to everything and feeling insecure is one of these things that are a double-edged sword. If you harness your insecurities, you can use them to empower yourself.
- Examples of this are all around us. Take a look at the people around you with the highest grades in school. They’re always freaking out about the B they got on their test when you’re happy that you passed with a C average. And the people around you that are the most fit and healthy stressing out about what they’re eating and being critical of themselves and their bodies. I’m not saying this is all healthy. Just saying there are pros and cons to things. Even things we perceive as being only a weakness (like having insecurities). If harnessed properly, these weaknesses are tremendous strengths.
- I’m insecure too. It doesn’t matter if I had $100 million in the bank, I think I’d still feel insecure. Why? Because I have hurts and trauma from growing up poor in a missionary household. My parents allowed homeless people to live with us. We always wore donated clothing. We never went to the mall. Never ate out. Never got gifts at Christmas or birthdays. I always compared myself with others and felt like life was unfair because I was born into a cycle of poverty.
- It’s ironic though how things turn out because the same people I was most envious of are today the most broken people. Their parents money didn’t save them. Their parents money doesn’t fulfill them or give them satisfaction in their careers. Please don’t misunderstand me. I’m not looking down on anyone or saying “haha, look where you’re at now, and look at me!” I’m just saying. Oh how the tables do turn when enough time passes. Even silver-spoon fed kids have to grow up to earn their own place in the world. If not, it just won’t last.
- Lastly, we need to stop complaining about our insecurities and the flaws in our life (like growing up in a cycle of poverty, for example) because it’s a never ending cycle that doesn’t contribute anything to the bottom line and it only brings everyone else down around you. Look back a year or two. Seriously. Have you been complaining about the same thing this year, as you were back in 2017? If you answered yes to this question, then something is seriously broken and you need to get a hold of yourself. Look to the future. Don’t drive looking only at the back mirror of your life. You don’t have to let your circumstances enslave you and your future. You can do it!
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