What To Do When You’re Unmotivated And Just Not “Feeling It” (And Cash Give-Away Winner Announced)
We’ve all been there. Maybe you’re feeling this way now:
Not motivated, feeling stressed and depressed, lazy, unfocused, and just well…not feeling it. This can last for just a few days or maybe weeks, but sometimes it can go on for months or even years. And the worse it is, the stronger the cycle, so it keeps repeating itself like a never-ending story of despair and you wallow by yourself, in a pity party of sorts. You feel bad for yourself and it feels like there’s nothing you can do to give yourself that “boost” to carry on.
Change up your routine
Ok, so you’re not feeling motivated and you’re in a slump. What do you do?
One of the things you should do right away is to introduce something new to your life. Something that’ll jolt you out of your current state of being. This can be a different sleeping schedule, a new work-out routine, catching up with friends, going to a church or charity type event, or catching up with old friends. You need to do something different or nothing will change.
Does this make sense? So again, the key is for it to be something new and different that’ll take you out of the monotony of your usual day-to-day living. You might just be uninspired or bored.
Modern day living has us all stressed out; we can all use a breather
Get away for a while.
It can be just by yourself or with your family. Plan a trip somewhere to de-clutter. And it has to a nature setting where you can be surrounded by trees, bodies of water, and teeming wildlife. I don’t think we were made to always be plugged in digitally like this.
We’re always being bombarded by radio waves and who knows what else. And the constant honking of car horns, sirens, and overall noise pollution in cities have gotten us all frazzled. So I can’t think of a better way to push the rest button by heading into the forest or something like that and walking for hours in the woods just breathing in the fresh air and away from city life.
You’re burnt out, remove some stuff off your plate
You know you’re human right? One of the biggest contributors of a slump is burn out. Straight up fatigue.
You’re not a robot. You can’t work 24/7, 365 days a year. So give yourself a break now and then! I can respect your hustle and grind, but you have to be realistic. You can’t keep putting more and more stuff on your plate. Especially when you’re so depleted already, with everything you’re doing now. Cut yourself some slack, and take some responsibilities off of your plate.
That might mean, lowering the overtime you’re putting in at work, removing yourself from certain positions of leadership (even if it’s just temporary), or re-evaluating certain goals you have so that it’s more achievable.
Lower your goals; yeah I said it
I have super crazy goals. Have you heard of some of them? One of them is making $100,000 a day. A day!
I share that with you not to say that I’m all about the dough-dough, although I’ll be the first to say that more money doesn’t hurt. The problem is more with the fact that there’s nothing more demotivating than not hitting your goals; it feels crappy to feel like a “loser” it’s a normal way to react when things are not going your way.
But have you give it some thought that the problem might be your goals are maybe too unrealistic?
This is especially true for perfectionists and highly ambitious people.
The key here is to not lower your goals so much that you’re being lazy and unproductive. They key is to evaluate whether or not your goals are truly achievable or are you just setting yourself up for assured failure? Why do that?
Again, the key is this: be realistic and take it one step at a time
Have you ever sometimes run up the stairs and you jumped 2-3 steps at a time to get to the top faster? I do that all the time. I do it because I have no patience to just run up the stairs one step at a time and my legs are long anyways, haha.
But here’s the problem with this strategy:
Eventually you’re gonna trip and bash your teeth into the concrete.
Does this make sense? You can only go so fast, so take it one step at a time and you’ll eventually get to where you want to go. So again, don’t misinterpret what I’m saying. I am not saying lower your goals in the normal way that people say it. I’m saying be more realistic with your goals.
An example would be, if we’re talking about money goals. I hear a lot of people say they want to get to a million dollars. And I ask them, “so what did you make last month?” and they say “zero” or something like that. How’re you gonna go from zero to $1 million? First try making $100 a month. And then $1,000 a month, get my point? Take it one step at a time.
You need accountability, so join a group or mastermind
I can tell you this with absolute certainty. It’s so much easier when you try to get something done with a group than trying to do it like the Lone Ranger and going at it only by yourself.
Look, even the Lone Ranger had Tonto.
You need a group that’ll keep you accountable. This can be friends, a mentor/coach, a family member, or a club of some sort. It’s way more motivating when you have others cheering you on. It’s also way more motivating when you see other people take missteps and fail, just like you do. Not because you’re making fun of them or reveling in their downfall; but because it helps remind you that you’re all in it together and that none of us are perfect. We all make mistakes.
Ask yourself this: where do you see yourself when you’re 50 years old, or 60 years old? Or older?
If your goals are monetary in nature, in other words your goals are money goals, then you need to make it real.
Take 30 minutes to debrief with yourself. Go to a quiet room so you can focus. Picture yourself when you’re 55 or 65 or whatever older age.
Where are you? What are you doing with your life? What’s making you happy? What kind of home are you living in and what does your life look like? And what does your bank account look like? What kinds of vacations are you taking?
Am I making sense?
You need to visualize where you’re going so you can re-orient yourself to your goals. Look online and start looking at the price tags of the type of cars you want to drive, or the types of vacation resorts you want to stay at (are they $10,000 a night? Something fancy by the beach?). Without something concrete you can peg your goals on, it’s all fluff. So take a moment to do this important practice.
Do this regularly. At least once a month.
If you’re spiritually dry, it’s no wonder you’re not “feeling it”
Look, I’m sorry if you’re not Christian, but I am.
I can’t be what I am not. I have to be true to who I am, so I hope you can respect that.
So what that means for me is that I have to be plugged into God’s Word. Now, I’m preaching to myself more than I’m preaching to you guys, ok? I need to read the Bible more. Every time I’m more in the Word, I feel different. I’m more calm and I’ve realized by now that there’s a peace that only Christ can give me.
Conclusion and Key Take-aways
- Change up your routine. You’re stuck in a boring rhythm. Jolt yourself back to life by changing something up whether it’s a new sleeping schedule or a new workout routine.
- Modern-day living is super stressful and “not natural.” So you have to make some time for yourself to get into nature. Go deep into the woods and sleep under the stars. Be next to wild life and see animals in their natural habitat. Sleep in a cabin and go fishing in a lake. Unplug from technology (I know, this is super anxiety-inducing for someone like me who lives on his phone), but you have to do it from time to time or you start becoming more robot than human
- You’re burnt out. Rather than putting more on your plate and drowning even further, you need to take some stuff off your plate. I think it’s better to do 1 thing really well than 3 things not so well. Does this make sense? You’re spreading yourself too thin. You’re not a robot, you’re a human being.
- Make sure your goals are realistic. I’m not a fan of low targets. But at the same time, I’m not a huge fan of unrealistic targets because…well…let’s face it, it’s unrealistic. So you’re setting yourself up for failure. And why would anyone sane want to do that? Just like the analogy I give about going up the stairs one step at a time, make sure you’re doing that in life. The ultimate end goal doesn’t have to be low. Just make sure you’re not running up the stairs of life jumping 2-5 steps at a time; because that’s a sure-fire way to inevitably trip, fall, and land on your jaw
- Join a group. You’re not perfect so you’ll make mistakes. So you need a team of people keeping you accountable. And at the end of the day, it doesn’t take a smart person do understand that things are just easier when done in a group. Trying to go solo is just too hard.
- Make your goals real by visualizing where you’ll be in 10, 20, 30 years. Don’t just make shallow goals. You need to marry the goals with real things. I give some money goal examples above; but it has to be real, with an actual price tag. This will help you re-orient yourself and get you back into the game with the right mindset.
- Like I said time and time again, I can’t be who I’m not. And I have to be true to myself. I can’t lie to myself. And I’m first and foremost a believer in Jesus Christ. This is not just important to me. It’s the most important thing. So even if you’re not Christian, you need to understand and respect that. And so for me I need to make sure I’m spiritually doing well. Whether or not you believe it, we’re spiritual beings. If you’re starving spiritually, no wonder you’re feeling so weak. You need to drink from the well. Go replenish yourself in God’s Word. Has it ever failed you?
P.S. today’s $100 cash give-away winner is @pariswynne
A lot of people found the hidden hint in my blog and correctly guessed my Hungarian name; but @pariswynne was the first to correctly guess it. It’s Timóteus! And for those of you who are confused about why a Korean kid has a Hungarian name, it’s because my parents are missionaries and they uprooted us from South Korea in 1991 to serve in Hungary (they’re still in Hungary – they have a homeless feeding ministry, Gypsie slum ministry, kids, and prison visit ministry – they also have a local church that my dad preaches in Hungarian in – please pray for them and the people they’re serving when you think of them!
Please take a moment to congratulate @pariswynne for winning the cash give away and don’t be too sad if you didn’t win this time, because there’s always next time! I’ve given away over $41,000 in cash and iPhones so there’s always more where that came from. And as long as you guys are all still supporting my blog, I’ll have money coming in to do more cash give-aways. I want to take a brief moment to thank all of you for being readers and following me on my journey and learning from my blog!